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The power of dads

by Meralon Shandler

The evolution of dads and birth

The movement of dads into the birthing rooms of today have allowed them to participate in their babies’ births like no other time in history. They now support their partners throughout the whole process of pregnancy and childbirth – they attend prenatal classes, ultrasound appointments, and invite doulas into the birthing room. However, when baby is born and settled at home, breastfeeding with mom, many dads report feeling lost and “a bit like a spare wheel.” In reality, there are many different ways dads can support the breastfeeding process and as a result, create a bond with their baby.

Moms need a break (the understatement of the year!)

In the beginning, it may seem like mom is always with baby. It is a time when mom and babe need to develop that breastfeeding relationship, which is so vital to the infant’s survival. But, there is time for dad as well – when baby is finished feeding, dad can change a diaper, hold baby on his chest, or take the baby for a walk in a sling. The low sound of dad’s voice is very soothing, and the feel of his heartbeat is so reassuring. Giving mom a well-deserved break will not only help to alleviate tiredness, but will score big “daddy” points!

If baby is fussy

Dads are often the best at soothing fussy little ones – a favourite position is with one hand in baby’s crotch and the forearm across baby’s front, with the head in the crook of dad’s arm. Try dancing or swaying with baby in this position – motion is frequently helpful for babies to feel secure and comforted. Remember, baby has heard that deep voice for the past nine months so singing or humming (baby doesn’t care if he can’t carry a tune) may work wonders!

Be her rock

Dads can help immensely by supporting the breastfeeding relationship – studies have shown that the duration a mother breastfeeds depends on dad more than any other person. So, by fielding criticism from others, giving her breastfeeding resources and encouragement to reach out, and providing warm hugs and words, dads can nurture the mothers of their babies, and in turn, create a lasting bond with their children that will undoubtedly bring them much joy.

Meralon Shandler is the owner of Mamaspeak, programs offering support and education to new moms in the postpartum weeks and months. For more information visit www.mamaspeak.com.

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